Blank: Karma in relationships: Do we get what we deserve?

Last month, *Aleks, one of my male friends, was dumped! Man, was he crushed! His heart was broken into smithereens. However, I can’t say I felt sorry for him. No, I am not a sadist. It is just that I think that Aleks got what he deserved.
You see, Aleks is this type of man who thinks that he is a jogoo. The kind that will sweep a girl off her feet, take her up to cloud nine and leave her to crush to the ground. Then he moves on to the next victim. Many hapless girls have fallen into his trap, only to have their hearts broken.
It is not that Aleks ever deluded himself that he was in love with *Sara, the girl who dumped him. He is just hurt because he was not the one who did the dumping. In his typical Kenyan man style, he had believed that only a man can dump a woman. He assumed that only men initiate relationships, keep them going and terminate them at will. Apparently, nothing could be further from the truth.
Aleks’ story got me thinking: is there such a thing as karma in relationships? I went to Google, my favorite search engine. What I unearthed is amazing. Apparently, many people now believe in Karma. To some, it means that you will get what you deserve or that the chickens will come home to roost. That means that everyone will pay for their misdeeds.
For all those men, who, like Aleks go about breaking girls’ hearts, beware, karma will catch up with you sooner or later. You can run but you sure can’t outrun fate. It all balances out in the end.
For those who wonder what I have been raving about, karma is the law of moral causation. This concept is one of the fundamental doctrines in Buddhism and Hinduism. In simple terms, it says that, in this world, nothing happens to a person that he does not, for some reason deserve.
Folk wisdom got it right all along; ‘what goes around comes around’. Our present circumstances are a result of our own past actions and our present doings. We ourselves are responsible for our own happiness and misery. We are the architects of our own fate.
Do you seem to be getting all the bad luck? Well, look no further, the problem might be you. Just do some real soul-searching.
Much as other religions oppose the belief in karma, I think most have aspects of it. Take Christianity for instance. Jesus himself said that a man reaps what he sows. According to the Good Book, if a man sows evil, he should not expect to reap good. I am not very good at quoting verses, but I know of one, that says that, one should do unto others what he expects to be done to him. Christianity also teaches about the effects of moral evils in a man’s life. Man is judged by his own actions. However, in Christianity, man is offered respite for sin by Jesus Christ


You need to figure out the root course of bad karma in your relationships

Muslims, just like Christians are zealously opposed to the concept of karma. However, I think that Islam itself is based on a form of karma. Islam teaches that one is responsible for their own fate (correct me if I am wrong). Man is saved or condemned by his own deeds. That is why Muslims are so zealous in practicing their faith. They hope to be able to save themselves from eternal damnation.
So how can you change your luck and overcome bad relationship karma? According to www.about.com.holisticliving this is all you need to do: Firstly, you need to sit quietly and figure out what the root cause of the bad karma is. This is supposed to help you gain awareness and understanding, which will lead you to forgiveness; the key to letting go of the past.
Secondly, forgive yourself and anyone else involved in the root cause. Remember, forgiving someone is for you, not for them. Guilt or resentment, which we are not always conscious of, sabotage our love lives
Lastly, learn how to track your personal love cycles. All our love lives follow predictable cycles. You know, like that buddy of yours who seems to always date the abusive man. With more awareness of yourself and your relationships, you'll be able to live and react with less fear and more love, make better choices in love and life, organize your efforts toward a happy and harmonious love life, and eventually live the love life that you may have only hoped for up until now.

Golden Rule: Do good to others and fulfilling love will find you

After all is said and done, what matters is not whether you believe in karma or not. What matters is that you learn to do good to others, not for your own selfish reasons, but because you sincerely care about them.

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